September 26th, 2008 | by Cassie Ryan |
No, I don’t mean a list of places you can procure discount coupons to Michaels or JC Penney’s.
If you’ve been in a relationship, you might have heard of “The List.” It’s a list of either celebrities or characters who if they showed up out of the blue and offered you a smoking-hot night of steamy illegal-in-forty-seven-countries sex, that you’d have a free pass from your spouse or significant other to go for it. Some of you know exactly what I’m talking about and others of you think I’m insane. But seriously—I know tons of people who have “The List” in place at this very moment. Still don’t believe me? Ask around—you’ll be surprised.
Now, of course, the general assumption is that you’ll never ever meet these people on your list, so it’s not really an issue. It’s just the fantasy of it.
For example: My husband’s list consists of Alyssa Milano (Phoebe from Charmed) and Jennifer Love-Hewitt (Melinda from Ghost Whisperer). And my list consists of Matthew MacFadyen (sexy British actor of MI-5 and Pride & Prejudice fame), Han Solo from Star Wars, and Captain Jack Sparrow. No, not Harrison Ford or Johnny Depp, not that I have anything against either of them, but it’s the characters they portrayed that are on my list, not the actors themselves.
I think, and my husband and friends who also have “The List” agree that everyone has secret fantasies, and there’s nothing warped or perverted about it. And in fact, in a trusting, monogamous relationship, acknowledging these fantasies is healthy. I’m not offended that my hubby has hot and sweaty fantasies about Alyssa and Jennifer. Hell, if I was up for a female fantasy partner, either one of those ladies would definitely make me strongly consider shedding the shackles of heterosexuality for one steamy night. And, in fact, as a writer, if I’m being picky about it, every time I write a sex scene, I’m doing a little bit of a group thing anyway—and I don’t just mean when I’m writing F/F scenes. I have to get inside those character’s heads—both female and male to write convincing sex, so, hey, I guess I already have a VERY active fantasy life!!
But I digress…
My husband also has no problem with me having Matthew on “The List”, or even Han Solo or Captain Jack (especially since the last two aren’t real). And in fact, the only time hubby even frowned over it was when he realized that when I base my hunky heroes on Matthew, I write with a picture of Matthew on my computer, for reference and inspiration. But to hubby’s credit, he got over that quickly and knows that I’m happily married and committed to our relationship. So, in light of that, he’s open-minded about me sharing some virtual fantasies with Matthew and my various and assorted characters.
Now, I do, actually hope to meet Matthew MacFadyen one of these days, and I’d love for him to star in a blockbuster movie made from one of my books. (Call me Matthew—I’ll send you signed copies of a few likely books…lol!) However, since both Matthew and I are happily married to other people, “The List” will come to naught. Because as much as I drool over Matthew’s public actor persona, A) I love my husband and would never do anything to jeopardize that, and B) I’m sure once I got to know Matthew, I’d find that he’s a real person who, just like my husband tends to leave his socks on the floor and has his share of other annoying male habits…lol! AKA, there would be no more fantasy!
But, since I’m a writer, I do truly enjoy my fantasies. And, also, as a writer, I enjoy hearing that I’m not the only one!!
So, it’s your turn. Do you have “The List”? If so, are both you and your spouse/partner fine with it? If not, why not? And, the juicy part—who is on your list and why?
Come on…DISH! You know you want to 
My list is short:
David Cook
Jensen Ackles
I don’t think I actualy have “permission” but I really don’t care. LOL!
by Crystal-Rain Love · September 26th, 2008 at 11:44 amWell, I’m single, so I don’t really have a list. But that being said, I wouldn’t kick Joaquin Pheonix or Matthew Mcconaughey out of my bed.
by Shelli Stevens · September 26th, 2008 at 11:56 amMatthew MacFadyen? Not your standard fantasy fare. However, when I think of the scene in Pride and Prejudice where he walking across the mist in the early morning and he comes upon Lizzie, OMG!
by Brit Blaise · September 26th, 2008 at 12:02 pmRain – that’s the idea!!
Shelli – go girl. We can live vicariously through you.
Brit – I agree – I LOVE that scene, and the one where Lizzie comes to meet Georgiana at Pemberly and you see Darcy smile. Ahhh, melt…. I think I fell in totally lust with Matthew MacFadyen on MI-5, also called Spooks. It’s a UK drama series and he’s totally yummy in it. Since then I look for anything he’s in.
Cassie
by Cassie Ryan · September 26th, 2008 at 12:37 pmOK, my husband and I both have a list of five and we’re fine with it.
I have to admit, I like his taste in women. If I were into women, I’d have his list too! LOL
My list – Vin Diesel, Daniel Craig, Grayson McCouch and, yes, Matthew MacFadyen. I keep the #5 slot open just in case
by Lisa Pietsch · September 26th, 2008 at 4:47 pmThanks for chiming in, Lisa!
I’m glad I’m not the only one admitting to having a List…lol! Great names on yours, too!
Cassie
by Cassie Ryan · September 26th, 2008 at 5:15 pmYou know Cassie, the world of men would be in deep trouble if a couple of cougars like us ever became single again.
by Lisa Pietsch · September 26th, 2008 at 6:48 pmLisa – You got it, baby! Or at least Matthew MacFadyen would…tee hee!
Cassie
by Cassie Ryan · September 27th, 2008 at 2:39 amJames Purefoy!
Angus MacFadyen (as Robert the Bruce in Braveheart – I’d even have taken him over Mel Gibson)
Viggo Mortensen
Oddy enough, Edward Norton. There’s something sexy-geeky about him that curls my toes!
by Carolan Ivey · September 27th, 2008 at 9:01 amCrystal Rain, can I have those guys on my list too? I think David Cook is mucho sexy and Jensen Ackles? Be still my heart. I love that guy. Did you know he’s tall, too? He always looks short next to “his bro” but really, not so much.
Also on my list:
1. Clive Owen
2. George Clooney
(I don’t care if I have permission or not.
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by Erin Quinn (aka Erin Grady, in case the boys want to track me down) · September 27th, 2008 at 10:48 amCarolan – I agree, nothing like a sexy geek
Erin – I’m with you. These are our lists – screw asking for permission!! LOL
by Cassie Ryan · September 27th, 2008 at 12:46 pmAngus MacFadyen? That’s a nice bit of crumpet!
Viggo Mortensen? Buffed out and cleaned up a la “Hunt for Red October”, oh, hell yes.
Edward Norton? Did you see his body in American History X? Yummy.
See, this is why I keep my #5 slot open!
by Lisa Pietsch · September 27th, 2008 at 4:17 pmThey’re mine, Erin, all mine!!! LOL!
Yes, I’ve been following Jensen since waaaaaaaay before his days on Supernatural so I know he’s very tall, he’s also pretty damn buff but Jared makes everyone around him look little. That guy is HUGE.
Yup, screw permission! Some things are just too good to pass on.
by Crystal-Rain Love · September 27th, 2008 at 7:18 pmSince we’re expanding our lists, I do have a bit of a thing for David Tennant, the current Doctor Who.
Great sense of humor and very yummy!
by Cassie Ryan · September 27th, 2008 at 8:12 pmWould I be totally hijacking this conversation if I just added a second on Brit’s comment about the morning scene in Pride & Prejudice?
That was just fantastic cinema.
Since I’m hijacking – Brit, if you’d seen him in MI-5 when he was Mr. In Control during a crisis of epic proportions, you just might see the attraction. It isn’t so much about the physique but the confidence, competence and assertiveness. I find that very hot.
by Lisa Pietsch · September 27th, 2008 at 9:55 pmI’m single, too, so my list is EXTENSIVE
But I’ll give you the top five:
1) Riddick (Vin Diesel in Chronicles of Riddick)
2) Wind In His Hair (the tough Sioux from Dances With Wolves)
3) Eric Schweig (the gorgeous Uncas from Last of the Mohicans)
4) The Rock! My Gawd! ‘Nuff said!
5) Oded Fehr (gorgeous Madji from The Mummy and The Mummy Returns)
Dang, Cassie, leave it to you to come up with a subject that gets us all hot under the collar…and stuff ;D
TJ Michaels
by TJ Michaels · September 28th, 2008 at 12:22 amhttp://www.tjmichaels.com
Nice list, TJ! I’ll definitely take #5.
by Lisa Pietsch · September 28th, 2008 at 8:38 am(It broke my heart when he died in Resident Evil III.)
Thanks TJ! Not bad for a “What the heck am I going to blog about?” moment
But it’s tons of fun.
Oh yeah on Oded Fehr! Yum!
And I’m totally with Lisa on Matthew – he’s VERY much #1 on my list. He was awesome in MI-5, and he was great in Maybe, Baby (even though he was a total and complete ass…lol). If I was single, I would so be a MM stalker. So, instead I’m just a virtual fantasy stalker. MWAAHAAAHAAA!
by Cassie Ryan · September 28th, 2008 at 2:50 pmThanks for pointing me to your post Cassie, very cute.
hah
by Terri Molina · October 2nd, 2008 at 11:22 amAs for a list….I don’t have one, at least I’ve never thought about it and never asked my husband. Of course being the insecure person I am…I dont’ think I’d like knowing who my husband fantasized about.
Thanks for stopping by Terri!
See, now maybe you’ll start churning The List in your mind and come up with some for your list. No need to tell hubby he can have one, too…lol!
Cassie
by Cassie Ryan · October 2nd, 2008 at 12:26 pm