October 27th, 2008 | by Shelli Stevens |
I love lingerie. I adore the stuff and have no shame in admitting it. I love looking at it. Debating to buy it. Wearing it. It’s fun. It can be sexy or flirty or naughty. Different colors, textures, levels of sexiness. *Whimsical sigh* I confess that I, Shelli, just love the idea of lingerie. I even wrote a book called Negligee Behavior that deals with the stuff (that my agent is currently shopping!).
So I got to thinking the other day as I caved and bought some lingerie that was on clearance…. does, it even matter that we gals buy this stuff? When I really thought about it, I’m not so sure men love the lingerie thing as much as we think they do. I mean, granted some will love it and go wild over the stuff. But I wonder if most men are just as happy to see you show up unwrapped. AKA…butt naked.
Obviously, being single I don’t have a boyfriend/mate/husband to go ask their opinion on. And though I did shoot off a couple of emails to guy friends, they’re a little slow on the draw (reading their emails). So I’m writing this post going strictly on past relationship experience. In regards to lingerie I remember many moments of, ‘Wow, that’s pretty hot. Now take it off.’ Like there was no catwalk of seduction (could be me going about it wrong). It was more of a…well there’s $35 that hit the floor faster than you can say orgasm.
Anyway, enough of my TMI. So how about you? Do you or your man like wrapping things up in satin and lace (or, heck, leather)? Or do you all prefer things unwrapped… au natural.
Shelli 
http://www.shellistevens.com
LMAO. I remember going lingerie shopping with my sisters for one of their double-digit anniversaries. It was fun because my sisters are…well I had the distinct impression it was one of their first times shopping for lingerie.
She picked up a thong and gave it a puzzled look and seeing her look I said, “Get it. It’s a thong. And since it’s your anniversary I’m sure it’s okay to put things in your butt.”
My oldest sister knew I wasn’t only talking about the panties, the middle one…not so much.
I’m an au natural girl myself. But I can still remember my first trip to Frederick’s. Awwe. Good times. Good times.
by Emma · October 27th, 2008 at 12:22 amYou weren’t talking about panties?!
Frederick’s can be really fun. I bought my first corset there years ago.
by Shelli Stevens · October 27th, 2008 at 12:24 amI absolutely adore a woman in lingerie.
It’s the tease of it. Good lingerie draws the eye in, and the hands. The sensation of fabric under my palms is wonderful.
There’s also the fact that a woman wearing lingerie for me takes away the uncertainty of the moment. I know she’s in the mood.
by Rob Graham · October 27th, 2008 at 10:06 amI would say, for most men, No it doesn’t matter
by Amie · October 27th, 2008 at 10:09 amI’m just happy to find a pretty bra in my size, the rest I could care less about.
I don’t think it really matters for most guys. The fact that you showed up, you’re not saying “no” and you’re willing to have sex….is enough for them. 
Don’t get me wrong…I think they like seeing us in it, the lace and silk and whatnot…but they’re more interested in seeing it come OFF and getting down to the nitty gritty. 
by Lyric James · October 27th, 2008 at 10:30 amRob, see that’s all part of it. It’s a ‘hey guess what’s happening’ statement.
Amie, amen to that. Why do all the really sexy/cute bras only come in B cups??
Lyric, and that’s the impression I get too!! LOL. Completely.
Glad you all stopped by!
by Shelli Stevens · October 27th, 2008 at 11:32 amIt depends on the guy. There are men that are more into — just getting it on — and then there are other that are more appreciative of the sensual. The sensual guys I’ve known very much liked lingerie, for some of the reasons Rob stated.
by Nonny · October 27th, 2008 at 11:49 amI just asked my husband if he likes lingerie (cos I am a bad wife and rarely wear it, sigh…) and he said yes. Didn’t even hesitate. So I think I need to bust out the old stuff and throw it on. For a good ol’ time of course. LOL
by Karen Erickson · October 27th, 2008 at 1:02 pmLMAO! Karen that’s the cutest thing ever!! I’m so excited for you!
by Shelli Stevens · October 27th, 2008 at 1:04 pmNonny, so sensual guys huh…ok. Noted!
by Shelli Stevens · October 27th, 2008 at 1:04 pmMy husband loves lingerie and will happily hand over the big bucks for me to buy it. I’m a big Agent Provocateur fan because they make pretty things even for us girls with the um interesting bust sizes! (but $170 for a bra? a bit steep)
by Kate Pearce · October 27th, 2008 at 2:21 pmI buy the French brand Chantelle for everyday use and love it!
Kate, I’ve never shopped there. Though I must say I’m so intrigued! Maybe some day… lol! I love Chantelle. Such cute stuff!
by Shelli Stevens · October 27th, 2008 at 2:42 pmI like the look of lingerie, and sometimes the feel, but with three kids aged 2 to 9, work and everything else in my life, I don’t have the time or the inclination to shop for or wear it anymore. The “that’s nice, now take it off” sounds vaguely familiar to me! LOL That pretty much sums it up. My dh likes it, but we don’t have a lot of time for… stuff. So, you know, that’s a lot of money for stuff that isn’t going to be seen that long. And frankly, he seems to prefer me in a long t-shirt – he’s a casual kind of guy. As long as he still wants me, I’m good with that.
Works for me, means I can spend more money on books!
by Michelle (MG) Braden · October 27th, 2008 at 4:17 pmMG, that’s so true! About the money part and the time wearing it. And in this economy. Heck, just duct tape a few doilies on, right?
by Shelli Stevens · October 27th, 2008 at 4:30 pmOh my god! Lets forget for a second the inflated prices and imagine a world with open cheque books and the government sponsering free lingerie on demand and the kids are at the inlaws.
As your typical red blooded man whats sexier than a woman in a black lace bra and panty set with matching hold-ups or pretty white lace. Then we have all the slips, camis, corsets, bras, panties, warps with wonderful french names that I can’t spell and stockings with suspenders. Believe me they do launch a million day dreams.
Do we notice?Yes we do! While we may not acknowledge it and feel like a fish out of water when you go shopping for it but we are thinking just whats under that business suit!
So do men care? Yes we do! I notice that Playboy puts out a separate edition just with women in lingerie or wonder why Victoria’s Secrect market as much to men as women with their shows and such.
As I always like to think its “the seduction not the act!”
by daniel · October 27th, 2008 at 7:08 pmYou know, Daniel, I am ALL for a government sponsored lingerie plan.
And yay for noticing and fessing up!! I wonder who shops at V.S. more. The men or women. Hmmm. That fashion show is certainly more men geared. But so fun to watch!
by Shelli Stevens · October 27th, 2008 at 7:45 pm*sigh* So I go to my mail box today and what’s in it? The Victoria’s Secret holiday catalog. I suppose it’s good to dream.
by Shelli Stevens · October 27th, 2008 at 8:02 pmlol! Well I must admit I did pop over to the VS site and am still there…im lost in the Very Sexy part of the catalogue!!! I will say this though- when I do read the “steamy stuff” the description of what shes wearing really plays a role
cheers all and out!
by daniel · October 27th, 2008 at 8:58 pmGreaaaat. Now you’re going to have me surfing their site. Thanks for dropping by, Daniel! And I’ll remember that about the lingerie in books…I just have to incorporate it into the futuristic sense. Which actually can be quite fun!
by Shelli Stevens · October 27th, 2008 at 10:41 pmHi Shelli! We’re on the same clothing wavelength blogwise. I read your blog after I submitted mine. Mine deals more with author vs. everyday-life “looks.” I enjoyed your blog and the photos. I think I like lingerie photos more than the real thing for some reason.
Elizabeth Amber
by Elizabeth Amber · October 28th, 2008 at 1:03 amNICHOLAS, THE LORDS OF SATYR
RAINE, THE LORDS OF SATYR
LYON, THE LORDS OF SATYR (Aug 2008)
DOMINIC, THE LORDS OF SATYR (March 2009)
erotic historical paranormal romance
Kensington Aphrodisia
http://www.elizabethamber.com
We are on the same wavelength, Elizabeth! I enjoyed your post too
by Shelli Stevens · October 28th, 2008 at 11:16 amFrom a middle-aged male’s perspective:
by Bill · October 30th, 2008 at 12:37 pmJust ran across your website from the Naughty-and-Spice.com Blog. I LOVE my wife in lingerie. She doesn’t wear it often, but when she does, I’m putty in her hands, well except for that (LOL). It doesn’t have to be expensive. It’s the way she looks. Even a comfortable nightshirt and some teasing is enough to kindle the fires. mmm. ThighHigh Stockings. So two thumbs up for lingerie and the women who own it (and the men they control with it).
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by Bill · October 30th, 2008 at 1:02 pmBill, glad you found us over here! And you’re so smart about that post Halloween sales outfits!! What a great idea!
by Shelli Stevens · October 30th, 2008 at 5:15 pm