April 28th, 2009 | by Elizabeth Amber |
Dominic, The Lords of Satyr
My friends and family are shaking their heads over my newest obsession…Millionaire Matchmaker. Why do I watch?
Because Patti Stanger cracks me up, she doesn’t take any BS from the millionaires who come to her to find true love, and because I’m hoping to see some happy endings.
I get a sense of recognition when I watch these men who come into Patti’s office looking for help finding a long-term relationship. There’s often at least one all-too-familiar quality about each of them that reminds me of someone I’ve dated. Some are too unmannerly, too non-alpha, too cocky. And then there are the men in their forties who come in asking her to match them with a 21-year-old “hottie”. I’m not saying true love can’t happen between a 45-year-old and a 21-year-old, but they’ll have less in common to build on.
The most intriguing are the dates that seem to go so well. The dates when there’s plenty of laughter and apparent mutual attraction. I’m left feeling as hopeful as the woman who went on the date–they often say afterward, “It was the best date ever!” And then, the guy never calls again! Go figure. Pa
tti give the guys a hard time about this and once demanded that a guy call the woman and explain that he wouldn’t be seeing her again in a romantic sense. He agreed to do this, but never did.
I keep watching though. After all, I’m a romance novelist, so I’m always hoping couples will find their happy ending!
How about you? Have you ever had a great date, then the guy never called again? If he did call only to say his version of, “I’m just not that into you,” would you have preferred that hadn’t called at all? What are some traits of past dates that have driven you crazy?
Leave a comment for a chance to win my newest release, Dominic, The Lords of Satyr. Winner will be chosen and posted here this Sunday, so be sure to check back. Thanks for visiting the Aphrodisia author blog!
Elizabeth Amber
Nicholas | Raine | Lyon | Dominic : The Lords of Satyr series
Coming soon: Dane
erotic historical paranormal romance
Kensington Aphrodisia
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I have never seen that show, but I can see how you could be drawn to it. The magnetism that usually happens to couples on dates can be addicting. And who knows you may get new materials for a book from such shows!
I would love to win Dominic!
by Krystal · April 28th, 2009 at 5:38 pmHmm… I’m not sure that’s happened to me, but honestly it’s been a while since I’ve dated
Can’t say I miss it, really!
by Fedora · April 28th, 2009 at 5:58 pmUgh, I hate reality tv. Actually I don’t watch tv at all anymore. I’d much rather read about romance than watch it unfold and fall flat. I never dated much before finding my hubby, but I think I’d prefer an honest phone call to being left wondering if he got hit by a bus.
by Missy · April 28th, 2009 at 6:03 pmAloha, Eliezabeth! Don’t even get me started on dating and men. Many of the romance authors have wonderful hubbies and I want one of those but frankly not too many to be found. Some are downright creepy. *shudders* And sometimes, nice guys but no spark. Not even an illusion of one. Lol! So I’ll happily stick to my HEAs from you wonderful authors and be glad that I didn’t date or marry some guy like Mr. Bundy.
by Jan · April 28th, 2009 at 7:21 pmOMG! I love that show. I caught it by accident. My husband had on Bravo because he watches West Wing marathons, so anyway he left for work and forgot to turn the tv off and it was on, a marathon of it. 6 shows later and I was hooked. I agree Patty totally cracks me up. Did you see the episode with “Sex Toy Dave- STD for short.” Loved it! Can’t really say I ever had a bad date. I had a really good one that led to my marriage.
by Lisa F. · April 28th, 2009 at 7:53 pmI havent seen that show but I am not a big fan of reality TV. I also have yet to read any of your books and would so love to change that. Please enter me in the drawing I would love to win.
by sara hurt · April 28th, 2009 at 7:55 pmI dated a guy for about 4 weeks. The second date we went to a local club and hung out with his bother and sister in law. Third date I met his Mom. He seemed very into me, until…after about 4 weeks with no warning he quit calling and all my calls went to voicemail. At that point my friend who had introduced us admitted the guy had a history of coming on very strong and then after about a month disappearing. I wasn’t heartbroken but I was pretty shocked.
by martha · April 28th, 2009 at 7:57 pmHi Krystal,
You’re so right. It is addicting, and you never know where writing ideas will come from. Thanks for stopping by today.
Hi Fedora,
Good to see you. I don’t miss dating at all. The thrill of a good date was fun though!
Hi Missy,
I rarely watch reality TV either, which is why it’s weird that I’m attracted to this show. I think I’d prefer an honest phone call, too. But I can also understand a guy not having the guts to make an uncomfortable call. Thanks for commenting.
Aloha Jan!
by Elizabeth Amber · April 28th, 2009 at 7:58 pmGood to see you again! Thanks for coming by. I know what you mean about nice guys but no spark. That’s when we tend to forget to call them! Or when we avoid their calls. I’m sure that’s painful for the guys, too, but it’s hard to be forthright with a guy if you’re not interested. Alpha males on paper are the best dates of all. You can pick them up when you want them and put them on a shelf when you don’t. LOL
LOL Lisa!
Oh, yeah, I saw sex-toy Dave. He actually seemed like a pretty nice guy and I was sorry his date didn’t work out.
You’re so lucky not to have had any bad dates. Or maybe you’ve got the knack of turning any date into a good one. In my late 20s, I took a 3 year hiatus from dating. Within a few months of resuming dating, I met my husband. Worked out well. Thanks for your thoughts today and for stopping by!
Hi Sara,
I hope you enjoy the novels if you get a chance–and good luck in the contest. My bf Eva will randomly select a name btw. I always wonder how winners are chosen in online contests, so I thought I’d mention that. I’m not a reality TV fan. The only other reality shows I’ve watched are the very first Survivor show way back when reality TV was new. And I also watch Project Runway with Heidi Klum.
Hi Martha,
by Elizabeth Amber · April 28th, 2009 at 8:07 pmI’m so sorry that happened, but I’m glad it wasn’t too hurtful. It’s one thing if a guy never acts super-interested because you kind of expect it won’t be anything more than a few fun dates, but when he does seem interested (and you met his mom!) and then stops calling, it drives me crazy.
Thanks for dropping this comment!
I would prefer he call and let me know. I really hate when guys don’t call. I haven’t seen that show yet. I’ll have to watch it.
by Amy S. · April 28th, 2009 at 9:21 pmHi Elizabeth! I don’t watch too much TV but watched THE BACHELOR a few times in the past. I liked that one! Now I want to check this show out!
I remember in community college when I was into this guy who I met and he’s telling me that he didn’t want to have a relationship because of focusing on school. I thought it was a crummy excuse after seeing him a couple weeks later walking hand and hand with someone. So I always wished they were straight out honest. But I have the right one with me here now soon 26 years
by Caffey · April 28th, 2009 at 11:21 pmMy first boyfriend and I married so I haven’t had the experience of a guy suddenly stop calling. However, I think I would prefer to know the why behind the stop in calls. It is similar to some extent as having a friend that you hit if off with well and hang out together regularly, suddenly avoiding you without explanation. No closure…
by Little Lamb Lost · April 28th, 2009 at 11:26 pmHi Amy,
I hope you enjoy it. I’ve gotten my best friend and her daughter watching it. My husband watches it with me, but I doubt he’d watch it if I weren’t there.
I think I’d rather the guy call, too, though the conversation would certainly be uncomfortable for both of us. Thanks for stopping by!
Hey Caffey!
Nice to see you again. I’ve never seen The Bachelor, but if you like that you may like MM. MM is usually about a slightly older set of people who are really looking to settle down with a partner. Often in their 30s or 40s.
Congratulations on 26 years! Yay!
Hi Little Lamb,
by Elizabeth Amber · April 29th, 2009 at 12:07 amHow cool to find the right guy so quickly! You’re incredibly lucky. Closure is the right word. It’s hard to make that call though. I have to admit that I’ve left a few guys hanging in my dating years with no explanation as to why. I’d do things differently now, but in my 20s, I didn’t have the courage.
Thank you for dropping a comment!
Oh I can’t stand that witch! LOL. She said one thing that made me hate her and never go back. Can you guess???
No guy wants a woman with curly hair.
by Shelli Stevens · April 29th, 2009 at 12:15 amLOL, Shelli! She’s opinionated (and has straight hair), no question! And I don’t agree with all of her opinions. For instance, she advised one millionaire-guy to order for his date at a restaurant. The guy argued with her over this, but she stood firm. I sided with the guy. If a date tried to order for me at a restaurant, I’d be annoyed, not flattered.
She also advised this same guy to open doors for his date. I appreciate that courtesy from a guy, as long as he doesn’t go overboard, where he’s rushing to grab every door ahead of me. Or where I have to wait forever in the car for him to walk around and open my door!
by Elizabeth Amber · April 29th, 2009 at 4:18 pmI have watched that show. I as well love how she is so straight forward with these guys. Helps to put them in their place. She is good with the girls as well. Telling them what to wear and how to do their hair. Some of them need the help.
I have had guys not call me back. The one guy that I thought wouldn’t call me back, did the next day and now we have been together for 3 weeks and we both agree we are falling in love. It is so fast but it is so right. We both agree. He told me he is an alpha-male. As soon as he said it, I got chills. I am so excited I found a guy who knows that he is an alpha-male and knows that he needs to tell me. It is so great.
by Gina · April 30th, 2009 at 12:21 amYou know, I prefer a phone call. It’s better than wondering what happened, even if there is no explanation He’s just Not that Into You was a great service to women everywhere!
BTW: Love the Lords of Satyr series and would love to win Dominic (have not read it yet).
by Booklover1335 · April 30th, 2009 at 9:46 amI’ve never watched that show. I don’t watch much tv and most of the reality shows don’t appeal to me except for Project Runway.
I’ve been married for almost 34 years and didn’t date much before I met my husband. I agree that a phone call is much better than being left wondering what went wrong and why they don’t call. What can be worse than really liking someone and waiting for a call that never comes?
by annalisa · May 1st, 2009 at 2:16 amI’ve been watching, Make Me a Supermodel and NY Housewives this season. You’ve got me curious now, so will have to check out Millionaire.
As for dates, I married the first boy I dated, and our first date was his senior ball (very stressful, lol). But we’ve been together for 35 years now, so I count myself one of the lucky ones.
by Cathy M · May 1st, 2009 at 5:59 pmYes, this happened to me. I once went on a date that I THOUGHT went perfectly. He wined and dined me, said all the perfect things. We went on a total of 2 dates, and every time he was the perfect gentlemen. Then one day, I was at the mall with friends the day after our 2nd date and I ran into him…with his wife and kids!!! Needless to say I never spoke to him again, and I think he was just glad that I didn’t call his wife to call him out!
by Mari · May 1st, 2009 at 10:03 pmHi Booklover!
I’m so glad you’re enjoying the satyr novels. Nice to hear that. I haven’t seen “He’s Just Not That Into You” yet, but it’s in my Netflix queue, and shows a release date of June. I’m looking forward to it.
I can’t say a guy has ever given me a call to end things. A prolonged, painful silence has always signaled the end, and it’s always been hard to move on without any concrete closure. On the other hand, I’ve never called a guy to end things either. That call would be hard. If I’m ever single again, I swear I’m going to make those calls.
Thank you for dropping by the Aphrodisia author blog!
Annalisa!
Yeah! I love Project Runway—it’s the only other reality show I watch. It’s coming to Lifetime sometime this summer I think, finally. I heard there was some dispute between Bravo and the show’s creators, but that has been settled.
So yours is another vote for a call. I wish mothers would instill this into their sons as a “must do.”
Cathy,
Congratulations on 35 years of marriage! You are so lucky. You’re like my bf, Eva. She married the first guy she dated in high school, whereas I had to date many toads before finding my prince.
I saw an episode of Make Me A Supermodel and really liked it–I was rooting for the blond slightly older looking guy with the great body–he was posing with two horses in the episode.
Hi Mari,
by Elizabeth Amber · May 2nd, 2009 at 2:08 pmThat’s horrible! Why do guys think they can get away with things like this? Poor you and his wife. I’m so glad you found out early, even though it still wasn’t fun. Thanks for dropping by…and here’s to better dates for you in future!
I’ve never had that happen. With me the decision to move on has been mutual. I can’t be into someone when they’re not into me. I’m sensitive enough to feel and see the signs. And I’d like to think I send out clear signals as to my feelings so as not to mislead someone and put them in a position where I’d hurt them.
by Sue A. · May 3rd, 2009 at 7:50 amHi Elizabeth,
I love your books and Dominic is on my wishlist!
As for dates I met my husband when I was very young, we’ve been married for 30 years and he is the only real date I’ve ever had!
by Eva S · May 3rd, 2009 at 9:54 amHi Sue,
I wish I could say I couldn’t be into someone if they’re not into me. I’ve gotten hooked on several guys in my past, and they were ready to move on before I was. I’d like to think I’m wiser about relationships now and could be like you in this. You’ve got a very good outlook imo.
Thank you for dropping this comment.
Hi Eva,
by Elizabeth Amber · May 3rd, 2009 at 1:48 pmI love your name. It’s my bf’s name, and I’m planning to use it for my next heroine in my upcoming DANE THE LORDS OF SATYR.
Huge congratulation ons 30 years of marriage! That’s wonderful.
Thanks for stopping by the blog today!
My friend Eva has dropped over to help me brainstorm some issues with my WIP. She chose the winner of DOMINIC, THE LORDS OF SATYR:
Congratulations, Krystal!
Please email me at elizabethamber1 at aol dot com with a snailmail address and I’ll be happy to send you a copy.
Thank you again to everyone who stopped by. I found this discussion really interesting and appreciated hearing all the diverse thoughts!
by Elizabeth Amber · May 3rd, 2009 at 1:54 pm