Comments on: Those three little words….who said them first? http://www.aphrodisiaauthors.com/blog/2009/06/27/those-three-letter-words-who-said-them-first/ Careful...it's bound to get hot in here! Sat, 13 Mar 2010 18:27:08 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Book Junkie http://www.aphrodisiaauthors.com/blog/2009/06/27/those-three-letter-words-who-said-them-first/comment-page-1/#comment-5088 Book Junkie Tue, 30 Jun 2009 15:21:45 +0000 http://www.aphrodisiaauthors.com/blog/?p=1743#comment-5088 I have to be honest it was very hard for me to say those 3 little words to my now husband. He said them on day 10 of our relationship. Since our first date we have been together, and I do mean EVERYDAY for almost 13 years! I had been burned before and didn't trust my heart. I have to be honest it was very hard for me to say those 3 little words to my now husband. He said them on day 10 of our relationship. Since our first date we have been together, and I do mean EVERYDAY for almost 13 years! I had been burned before and didn’t trust my heart.

]]> By: Shelli Stevens http://www.aphrodisiaauthors.com/blog/2009/06/27/those-three-letter-words-who-said-them-first/comment-page-1/#comment-5076 Shelli Stevens Sat, 27 Jun 2009 20:33:07 +0000 http://www.aphrodisiaauthors.com/blog/?p=1743#comment-5076 Kate, that makes sense. I didn't hear it growing up a lot either. My family is very supportive and sweet, but not overtly affectionate. Laurie, that's awesome you were raised with such a 'loving' experience! :D I love you too! LOL. Anya, wow, that would intimidate me too! He sounds super sweet. Charlotte, lol, I'm sorry! Sounds like he had issues that went way beyond a girl loving him! Kate, that makes sense. I didn’t hear it growing up a lot either. My family is very supportive and sweet, but not overtly affectionate.

Laurie, that’s awesome you were raised with such a ‘loving’ experience! :D I love you too! LOL.

Anya, wow, that would intimidate me too! He sounds super sweet.

Charlotte, lol, I’m sorry! Sounds like he had issues that went way beyond a girl loving him!

]]> By: Charlotte McClain http://www.aphrodisiaauthors.com/blog/2009/06/27/those-three-letter-words-who-said-them-first/comment-page-1/#comment-5075 Charlotte McClain Sat, 27 Jun 2009 19:08:26 +0000 http://www.aphrodisiaauthors.com/blog/?p=1743#comment-5075 Oh criminy. You expect me to remember 18 years ago? I remember struggling with it at the time because I was always the one who blurted it out first and my previous boyfriend disappeared after I said it. (I'm pretty sure he moved out of state. How's that for scarring?) But as for who said it first? I dunno. Oh criminy. You expect me to remember 18 years ago? I remember struggling with it at the time because I was always the one who blurted it out first and my previous boyfriend disappeared after I said it. (I’m pretty sure he moved out of state. How’s that for scarring?) But as for who said it first? I dunno.

]]> By: Anya Howard http://www.aphrodisiaauthors.com/blog/2009/06/27/those-three-letter-words-who-said-them-first/comment-page-1/#comment-5074 Anya Howard Sat, 27 Jun 2009 16:05:22 +0000 http://www.aphrodisiaauthors.com/blog/?p=1743#comment-5074 My husband was the first to say it. I was already head-over-heels in love with him but afraid of his reaction. He'd dated so many women, a couple were gorgeous centerfolds for a very well known men's magazine. But we had been friends for some years and I thought surely no, I'll scare his man and send him running for the hills. So when he said it and kissed me, I cried like a baby :lol: And to say the least, I was happy he told me..and have continued to be for fifteen years! My husband was the first to say it. I was already head-over-heels in love with him but afraid of his reaction. He’d dated so many women, a couple were gorgeous centerfolds for a very well known men’s magazine. But we had been friends for some years and I thought surely no, I’ll scare his man and send him running for the hills. So when he said it and kissed me, I cried like a baby :lol: And to say the least, I was happy he told me..and have continued to be for fifteen years!

]]> By: Laurie Thompson http://www.aphrodisiaauthors.com/blog/2009/06/27/those-three-letter-words-who-said-them-first/comment-page-1/#comment-5073 Laurie Thompson Sat, 27 Jun 2009 16:03:43 +0000 http://www.aphrodisiaauthors.com/blog/?p=1743#comment-5073 Shelli, you crack me up! Call me crazy, but those words have never been really that impactful to me. It's the action behind those words that means more. But perhaps it's because I did and do hear those three words often. Growing up, we were always hugging and telling each other 'I love you' and meaning it. I hug my friends and say 'love ya.' I hug my sisters and brother and tell them I love them. On the phone with my mom, I always end it with 'I love you.' Even today when my dad drives me nuts (he's reverted back to being a dumb teenager who makes bad decisions that baffle the rest of us), I'll say 'I love you, Dad' and mean it. I tell my husband and my kids that every day. I wield those words with abandon. So when I first said it to a boy (can't remember if he said it first or not, I think he did), it didn't seem like that big of a deal. Friends say it to friends, it's not like I expected he wanted to go out and marry me the next day. For me, it's someone's actions that really count, not the words which are easily spoken. It's that whole showing, not telling thing, I guess. ;-) Tell me you love me and I'll say it back. But unload my dishwasher and I'll love you forever. By the way, Shelli, have I told you lately that I love you? XXOOX Laurie Shelli, you crack me up!

Call me crazy, but those words have never been really that impactful to me. It’s the action behind those words that means more. But perhaps it’s because I did and do hear those three words often.

Growing up, we were always hugging and telling each other ‘I love you’ and meaning it. I hug my friends and say ‘love ya.’ I hug my sisters and brother and tell them I love them. On the phone with my mom, I always end it with ‘I love you.’ Even today when my dad drives me nuts (he’s reverted back to being a dumb teenager who makes bad decisions that baffle the rest of us), I’ll say ‘I love you, Dad’ and mean it. I tell my husband and my kids that every day. I wield those words with abandon.

So when I first said it to a boy (can’t remember if he said it first or not, I think he did), it didn’t seem like that big of a deal. Friends say it to friends, it’s not like I expected he wanted to go out and marry me the next day.

For me, it’s someone’s actions that really count, not the words which are easily spoken. It’s that whole showing, not telling thing, I guess. ;-) Tell me you love me and I’ll say it back. But unload my dishwasher and I’ll love you forever.

By the way, Shelli, have I told you lately that I love you?

XXOOX
Laurie

]]> By: Kate Douglas http://www.aphrodisiaauthors.com/blog/2009/06/27/those-three-letter-words-who-said-them-first/comment-page-1/#comment-5072 Kate Douglas Sat, 27 Jun 2009 15:28:57 +0000 http://www.aphrodisiaauthors.com/blog/?p=1743#comment-5072 Those were not words I heard growing up, so they were very hard for me to say, and after coming out of a divorce, even harder when I met my spouse (the one I've been married to for 37 years now...) though I fell in lust at first sight! I can't recall now how long we'd been together or which one of us said them first, but I do remember the feeling that yeah, it was right and finally saying "I love you" had power. In my books, I never know when my hero or heroine will finally blurt them out, but it's an important time of commitment when it happens, and never the same. Some characters drift into love and others have it smack them upside the head, but the actual phrase, verbalizing those important feelings, has got to happen in a powerful moment in the story if it's going to work for me. Those were not words I heard growing up, so they were very hard for me to say, and after coming out of a divorce, even harder when I met my spouse (the one I’ve been married to for 37 years now…) though I fell in lust at first sight! I can’t recall now how long we’d been together or which one of us said them first, but I do remember the feeling that yeah, it was right and finally saying “I love you” had power. In my books, I never know when my hero or heroine will finally blurt them out, but it’s an important time of commitment when it happens, and never the same. Some characters drift into love and others have it smack them upside the head, but the actual phrase, verbalizing those important feelings, has got to happen in a powerful moment in the story if it’s going to work for me.

]]> By: Yvette Davis http://www.aphrodisiaauthors.com/blog/2009/06/27/those-three-letter-words-who-said-them-first/comment-page-1/#comment-5071 Yvette Davis Sat, 27 Jun 2009 14:54:23 +0000 http://www.aphrodisiaauthors.com/blog/?p=1743#comment-5071 I'be been thinking of writing a story where the woman blurts out "I love you" during - um, sex - and the guy gets in a bind about it. You know how guys can be .... :roll: sorta standoffish? Or maybe the guy just didn't want that level of relationship. But that brings me to another topic - things blurted out during - the moment - that came back to bite you in the butt later. Like the wrong guy's name? Oops. I’be been thinking of writing a story where the woman blurts out “I love you” during – um, sex – and the guy gets in a bind about it. You know how guys can be …. :roll: sorta standoffish? Or maybe the guy just didn’t want that level of relationship.

But that brings me to another topic – things blurted out during – the moment – that came back to bite you in the butt later.

Like the wrong guy’s name?

Oops.

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