November 4th, 2009 | by KateDouglas |
I was in the local Safeway today picking up some groceries, and I stopped to look at the books to see what was new. An older lady stood beside me picking up one, then putting it down with an audible grunt of disgust, then picking up another book, same thing. Finally she turned to me and said, “My daughter reads all the time. I don’t understand what she sees in this shit. It’s a waste of time.” And she grabs a copy of COVET by JR Ward. “It’s all make believe,” she said. “None of it’s real. It’s garbage.”
Coming December 29
Obviously, I could NOT keep my mouth shut–especially since I absolutely loved JR’s COVET! I smiled and said, “Well, I’m an author and that’s what I write—paranormal romance—and I certainly don’t think it’s garbage. It’s
entertainment, pure and simple.”
She got sort of a blank look on her face so I reached into my purse and grabbed a Wolf Tales bookmark and a DemonSlayers postcard (yes, I ALWAYS have them with me!) and handed them to her and said, “Maybe your daughter would like these.”
She stared at them a minute and then gave me a bug-eyed look and held up my Wolf Tales bookmark and said, “My daughter has almost all of these. She reads your books!” Now she wasn’t grunting, but she was definitely excited to be talking to the author of the books that her daughter reads that bug her so much.
We parted on good terms. Hopefully she won’t be quite so critical of her daughter, who, she said is 34 and has always loved to read. She, however, does not like to read. I feel sorry for her, but at least her daughter’s obviously got a mind of her own and reads in spite of dear mom…and she reads MY books!
I’m still chuckling over that little interlude…but it made me sad, in a way, to think that a mother would be so critical of her adult daughter who enjoys reading, simply because Mom doesn’t understand the books her daughter enjoys. Of course, my own mother doesn’t understand the books I write—she did ask me if she could read DemonFire, “because it’s not one of THOSE.”
I explained that it may not have as much sex in it, but it’s still got demons and spirits and make believe. So then she said she still wanted to read it, but I’m not supposed to tell anyone. Sure thing, Mom…uh, do you mind if I blog about it?
Hope you’re able to enjoy a good book without guilt. We should all be free to read–and write–what entertains us, what inspires us and what makes us happy. Do you ever find yourself having to defend your choice of reading material? If so, I want to hear what you have to say when someone asks why you’re reading “THAT BOOK!”
I’ll be choosing ONE WINNER for a copy of an ARC of DemonFire, the first book in my DemonSlayers series, out of those of you who leave a comment. 
Hello! I have found myself in a situation where they basically judged me according to the book I read (romance–all the way
) I got a little defensive feeling the need to justify it but I didn’t say anything. Judging a person according to the book they read seems feeble minded to me. Them not liking it is their lost, these books make me happy and that’s all that matters in the end.
by Chinnie · November 4th, 2009 at 2:12 amThanks for the opportunity!!! Love your books!
I can’t think of a time that I have had to defend a book I was reading. I think I am plenty old enough to decide what I want to read. I read a little of everything and I do let my sister borrow some of them, but she does not read paranormals at all. She want even try one, but thats her chose. She is mostly into historicals.
ghurt110 AT bellsouth DOT net
by Quilt Lady · November 4th, 2009 at 2:15 amI do find reading to be very personal and somewhat private. I once shared my list of favorite books with a friend and although we shared a liking for some authors, she embarrassed me in front of some male friends by knocking my liking for something she took offense to. When it comes to books, you can’t meet everyones tastes. And you shouldn’t have to justify what you like to anyone even close friends.
by Sue A. · November 4th, 2009 at 2:29 amKudos to the woman’s daughter! I’m 34 now, also, and I know it’s hard sometimes to justify reading, periiod. Not just the type of books, but books at all. People know you’re off in another world and enjoying hanging with other people and laughing with them and hearing their stories. I was once told it was like the people around me weren’t interesting enough. They were jealous of the attention I gave to books.
They just don’t get the compulsion. The need to have a different story going through your head, not just the same old drama most people vent about endlessly. After being with me for years, my husband became a reader. then our daughters. It’s funny to sit in a waiting room, all four of us with our nose in a book, and have people give us weird looks. lol
How validating for you that the woman recognized your books and that her daughter had all of them! Congratulations on your happy feeling.
by Jamie Leigh Hansen · November 4th, 2009 at 2:36 amWELL I LOVE ALL OF YOUR BOOKS:WHAT I SAY TO THEM TO EACH HIS OWN CHOSEING.
by SHELIA · November 4th, 2009 at 3:42 amOh, that was a great story. I bet her daughter was excited when she found out her mother had met you.
I’ve never really had to defend what I read but I have received some odd “faces” when I stated what I was reading.
We’re all different, that is what makes the world go round!
Thanks for the post.
by Tracey D · November 4th, 2009 at 4:56 amWhat a neat story! I have often recomended your book sto others.
by Debby · November 4th, 2009 at 5:20 amI have had to defend what I read often. When I was younger, I would just shut down but now that I am older, I ask them “when was the last time you read? What did you read?” I then gently remind them that if you don’t use a muscle, you lose the muscle. At least I am still using my brain!
by Chris Roberts · November 4th, 2009 at 6:43 amNot what I read but what I write. Stephanie Julian and I were at a readers’ conference where part of the proceeds were going to a local charity so there were representatives from the charity. Steph and I both write paranormal, so we’re sitting at the same table and one of the women representatives comes along and picks up our swag, checks out the covers and asks what we write. Shapeshifters and Mermen were our answers. She looked a bit perplexed, put our bookmarks, etc. down and said, “But you look like such normal people.”
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by Judi Fennell · November 4th, 2009 at 6:59 amHi Kate, this was a great post. I’ve had several discussions with other readers on Goodreads about how they respond to other people reacting critically to what they read. A lot of people think romance is garbage because it’s “not real;” a lot of them are outspoken about it too, especially if they see you carrying a romance novel around.
I love reading. And I read what I like– even if I sometimes blush carrying the books around in the stores due to their covers.
I’m glad you parted with the woman on good terms. It’s sad when others feel the need to be so critical about reading choices just because it isn’t “literary” fiction or nonfiction.
I really can’t wait to read Demon Fire. It sounds great and I love paranormal books. Please enter me in the drawing.
Lauren D
by Lauren D · November 4th, 2009 at 6:59 amDoh! I forgot to put my email in the comment section: calypso58 AT hotmail dot com
Thanks for hosting this drawing
by Lauren D · November 4th, 2009 at 7:01 amA friend recently made a comment about a book I was reading, something about if she were reading *that* or anything like it- she would not tell anyone, nor would she read it in public. I just shrugged it off and told her I don’t feel the need to apologize or explain my reading choices to anyone. Your books are great and I’ll keep right on recommending them!
by Anji · November 4th, 2009 at 7:08 amKate,
This story is just too funny! I’m betting she and her daughter will be hanging out in the Safeway, looking for you. LOL.
Great blog, and I can’t wait for Demonfire!
Faye
by Faye Hughes · November 4th, 2009 at 7:40 amGreat post, Kate! You’re brave–I couldn’t even bring myself to speak to a woman I saw reading one of my books in the airport. I just smiled b/c she was reading MY book.
by P.J. Mellor · November 4th, 2009 at 7:40 amLooking forward to reading your new series!
PJM
I love what I read and the only person I have to please is myself. I will share what I am reading with others if I am not reading or otherwise occupied. Would love an ARC of Demonfire as it looks lovely.
by Lindsey Ekland · November 4th, 2009 at 7:40 amHi Kate just stopping by I love the new covers can’t wait to read them. Wolf Tales covers get better and sexier every time. Demonfire looks great can’t wait to read it. I’ve read all your books and they are all on my keeper shelf.
by Josephine Berceegay · November 4th, 2009 at 7:42 amgood morning all! I’ve got to answer fast as I’m off to town to a doctor’s appointment this morning. By the way, you don’t need to post your email address in your comment as I will see it in my mail box–I get notification whenever anyone comments on my blog post.
Chinnie, I agree, but it doesn’t stop people from wanting to comment on your choice of reading! I love romances, though, and it’s really easy to come back with a positive comment. so glad you’re enjoying my books!
Quilt Lady–I had to laugh at my mother’s comment about my Wolf Tales series. She said it wasn’t the sex that bothered her, it was the fact that people could turn into animals! When she said it, she was so horrified I had to laugh!
Sue, don’t EVER let anyone embarrass you for your choice of reading–do what I do. tell them there’s nothing wrong with enjoying a story that has a happy ending. there’s enough misery in this world without adding to it by reading a depressing book.
Thanks, Jamie. I’ve been a reader since I was a little kid. It was pure escapism then as it is now. I can’t think of any way I’d rather spend my time–unless it’s writing!
Thanks, Sheila! I agree!! So glad you enjoy the stories.
Tracey, so true….and what was that old saying? If we were both alike, one of us wouldn’t be necessary…
Debby, thank you so much! I think Word of Mouth is the best advertising around, so that’s very much appreciated.
Chris, I love that answer. Must remember it.
Uh…Judi? I’ve met you…are you sure normal fits?
(Sorry…couldn’t help myself!)
thanks, Lauren–gotcha entered. When you post, your email address automatically comes to me and you’re entered.
Good for you, Anji! We shouldn’t ever feel we have to apologize for our reading choices…sheesh. I’m beginning to sound like leader of a “self help” group. “Hello! My name is Kate and I read romance…”
Hey Faye! Good morning, and thanks. I’m just glad she wasn’t still grumpy when we parted ways!
PJ! How could you pass up an opportunity like that? I’ve only had it happen a couple of times where someone was reading my book or buying one in a bookstore when I was there, and I ALWAYS introduce myself, hand out a bookmark and invite them to join my newsletter. It’s such a perfect promo opportunity, and also a chance to meet someone you know already likes you…there’s a lot to be said for that!
Thanks, Lindsey, and I so agree. Reading is such a personal thing, especially for those of us who can totally lose themselves in a book.
Good morning, Josephine! I agree on the covers–Kensington has such a great art department, and I always get gorgeous covers. Now I just need to figure out how to get invited to one of their cover model shoots…
I’ll be away most of the day, but will check back later. thanks to all of you for stopping by.
by Kate Douglas · November 4th, 2009 at 8:43 amYet another wonderful series by my favorite author, Kate, I cannot wait to read this series!!!!
by Heather Watkins from Franklin, TN · November 4th, 2009 at 9:12 amHi, Kate. Just last month, my 84 yr old father told some people we know that he’s so bored, there’s nothing on TV, and all I do is READ. He was complaining that I carry my Kindle with me everywhere I go. I feel sorry for him, at least I am never bored, and if I end up having work done on my car (last month), getting the oil changed (last week), or at the ER with him, I always have something to read. As for what I tell people who question my reading material, I say it’s pure escapism, a way to get away from any worries I may have. I have traveled all over the world, visited many time periods, just by reading. I can answer many of the Final Jeopardy questions, too, because of things I have read.
by Phyllis Butcher · November 4th, 2009 at 9:17 amI’m looking forward to reading DemonFire, just knowing it will be as good as the Wolf Tales series.
Phyllis B.
I take my reading material with me when I go to my granddaughter’s grade school to pick her up in the afternoon. I have to get there very early if I want a parking space, so I take my reading material with me. Once parked, I lock the car and walk up to the door of the school where there are several benches to sit down and pull out my book. I am then totally lost in the book for about 45 minutes. When my friend walks up to greet me she takes a look at the front cover of the book and just smiles knowingly. She will ask me about it later…in private. Soon the kids come out and we take our respective sharges and head for home….and our books!
by Betty Hamilton · November 4th, 2009 at 9:20 amI love your books and am not ashamed to tell everyone or anyone how great they are. I can hardly wait for the next one to come out!
by Margie Hall · November 4th, 2009 at 9:58 amThat lady sounded so sweet, her behavior doesn’t surprise me at all (sounded like my mom)
by Peace · November 4th, 2009 at 10:43 amI have never had to justify my reading choices but I did have to justify my writing only because of cultural differences. I’ve been writing using my cultural background as a reference, added to my Americanized self, so it’s an interesting mix.
that was a sweet story to share and I’m glad I read it.
I find myself doing the same thing the girl does to her mom. I am 30 years old and my mom is always asking why I am reading all these books about wolfs and vampires. I am also just entertained by these books. It passes the time enjoyably. Nothing wrong with sitting down reading a good book. It’s not like it is hurting anyone.
by Jennifer Cochran · November 4th, 2009 at 11:06 amI have to tell you…a friend of mine suggested I read your books because we have the same interest as far a reading, but she had to “warn” me about the content, just in case it would offend me. As I’m sure you might remember it does not offend me at all, I am so hooked on your books I always pre-order the new ones, and have them read in 1 day which is very unusual for me. Even a really good Kenyon, or Ward book takes me at least 2-3 days to read. So I tell everyone I can to read at least one of your books. If they don’t like it it’s their choice, but most are hooked immediately. Keep up the great writing Kate. Love it, love it, love it!!!
by Doris · November 4th, 2009 at 11:41 amI told one of my friends that I read steamy romances and he said I don’t read those, that’s what the internet is for and I told him that is were you get viruses from… lol.
by Janice Robert · November 4th, 2009 at 1:04 pmI don’t defend myself but I do shout to the world that if they haven’t tried it they should. I love any romance story that I can just forget about what today has brought and place me somewhere there is a goodlooking hunk that will take all my troubles away. How else do I have such good dreams at night. If you don’t like reading material then don’t be looking over my shoulder or ask me what has put that smile on my face and if it’s a paranormal romance you can be sure the smile is a mile wide.
by Tracey · November 4th, 2009 at 1:16 pmHi Kate,
I am lucky that my family and friends don’t give me a hard time about the books I read for pleasure. Since I began reading romance when I was a freshman in high school, over 20 years ago, I never really cared what people though about it. It is not to the point that my mom, will buy the books for me especially around the holidays and birthdays. In my case over the years while in school for undergrad and grad schools I had to read management theory books, stats, accounting etc, so when I read for pleasure I want to get lost in the books I’m reading. And you do get me lost every time
. I can’t wait to continue WT and start the new DS series.
Mischa
by Mischa Parris · November 4th, 2009 at 1:28 pmHi Kateness! You look mahvelous!
by Mel K. · November 4th, 2009 at 1:28 pmIt annoys me when people tell me they don’t read. And when you tell someone you write, they dismiss you as if it’s not a real job. I always say ‘who do you think wrote the textbooks you learned from?’ I also defend romance all the time as people seem to think every book has a certain cover model (I’m sure you know who I’m talking about) in it. Ignorance and stupidity make me so mad!
Anywho, good to see you. Hope that ARC finds it’s way to me. xo
I was at the doctor’s office and was reading while waiting to be called back. I always pack a book in my purse. A lady sitting by me asked what it was about. When I told here it was about vampires and werewolves, she said I don’t see how anyone can read that mess. I told her that I really enjoy it and that I prefer to read this than anything else. I love the paranormal romances out there. My hubby sends me to the book section every time we go to Wal Mart or the grocery store. I can hardly wait to read your new book.
by Julie Swaney · November 4th, 2009 at 1:32 pmJulie S.
YOU DONR TOLD HER KATE! BET SHE’S A CLOSET READER TOO@ SNORT
by hotcha1 · November 4th, 2009 at 1:34 pm
Um, I have gotten “strange” looks from friends and acquaintances when talking about books I read. You see, my husband (of 31 years before he died of heart failure 8 years ago) was a minister, and evidentally (according to some of the saints in churches) they are a breed of their own, living chaste, angelic lives. I’m happy to say, that I always added to the conversation that Yes, ministers do have sex, and don’t mind mentioning that alot of the time the books I am reading bring back some of the best memories of my life!!!!!!!
by Barbara Hansen · November 4th, 2009 at 2:02 pmHi Kate,
Thanks for the contest! Well, defending my reading is both a yes and no. Yes, sometimes perfect strangers feel the need to make a face (or worse) after they ask me what I’m reading. It usually happens when travelling. I’ll say vampire or paranormal or whatever it may be. And NO, because, depending on my mood at that time, I apparently either scare them silent with a fierce face worthy of one of our favorite shifter or vampire lead characters or I may be in a more happy place and so engage them in a discussion of why I like “all that make believe crap” the best! LOL
My friends and family either understand and appreciate the variety we all read, or I’ve lured them to the witchy side and now they read paranormals, too.
by Patrice · November 4th, 2009 at 2:05 pmYou GO kate!
I love these critical sorts that bash, choices other make then you find them glued to the tube watching soap opera’s and such.
If at the pediatricians, YES, I may bend a cover back that may be too risque to be seen, but I don’t make excuses for what I read.
When I am OFF, I want something fictional to take me away …somewhere else.
I don’t want to watch reality, which usually bites! I see and hear enough about that everyday.
Dana
by Dana · November 4th, 2009 at 2:05 pm
I’ve even got the Barnes & Noble girls hooked on the Wolftales series…they can’t keep them on the shelves!!! 
by Linda Bucci · November 4th, 2009 at 2:06 pmAs I have several friends that are authors and write THOSE kinds of books, I have become the unofficial saleswoman at Borders and Barnes & Noble especially when a lady tells me that she is looking to find some good books. I had one woman tell me when I suggested my favorite WT that she had read one of Kate’s Wolf Tale books and she was turned off because she didn’t believe that animals should have sex with humans. I almost laughed in her face but managed to keep my big mouth shut that way but then I asked her did she read the entire book. She looked at me for a second or so and said yes and I asked her why. She said the story was good. I asked her did she realize that the Chanku were human shapeshifters and that when they turn into wolves that they still maintain their humanity and that even though they have shifted to wolves, the men and/or women that they are having a sexual relationship is of the same species as they are; therefore there is no beastiality involved. She started laughing and asked me if I had written these books and I told her no but that I had read each and every one of them and had become one with the Chanku. ;> D She got another one of the series. Kate, I should have emailed you and asked for my commission. LOL
I don’t defend my right to read the books that I read. My money, my house, my books. Mo
by Mo · November 4th, 2009 at 2:18 pmHi Kate,
by Eva S · November 4th, 2009 at 2:20 pmwhat a sweet story! I don’t have to defend my choices anymore, everybody around knows I’m reading a lot of books and they are afraid to ask what I’m reading, if I’m again trying to give them some books! I’m sorry to say I don’t have many reading friends over here, I so enjoy the internet!
Looking forward to the release of your new series!
Hi Kate,
Not only do I read all your books but I read them to my husband as well. I will have to tell you that we have been married for 26 years and we have really spiced it up a bit since reading paranormal/romance/erotica. They say that men are mostly visual, I’ve got news for them. Try reading erotica to them and see how their imagination expands. Would you say your stuff is educational?
As for defending what you are reading. Don’t defend it. We all have the right to read and experience the story authors have to tell. With all the crap that is going on in our world today. We need a break in reality to fantasize and destress. This world would be so boring if we couldn’t have material like yours to read.
I have also given many books to my daughter and her college friends to read. A little education for them as well. Think of the time not wasted when we can just tell men what we want. After all, we become empowered with knowledge.
Keep up the good books. I have ordered online from Kensington Publishing so much that I should own part of it.
by Rhonda Stein · November 4th, 2009 at 2:29 pmUnfortunately, that lady sounds like my mother. I remember she would look at any of my books from YA romances to the ‘adult’ romances I would read later on with disgust. She would and still does complain about all the books I own. I was even in a 6yr relationship with someone who would criticize me for my books. When we thought about marriage, one of the conditions was that I stop reading my hotter romances, grr… I think that’s the straw that broke the camel’s back.
by Ali · November 4th, 2009 at 2:48 pmI used to hide what I read… but, a few years ago, I finally decided to heck with it and I’ll happily tell anyone about the latest romance novel I’m reading
Looking forward to Demonfire, Kate… I’m interested to know what your mother think of it, too
I love your books and own all of the Wolf Tales and most of the Sexy Beast books. My family just shake their heads and laugh when i buy books. Hubs calls it my Smut!! But he will still buy them for me or buy me gift cards to buy more. He has his video games and I have my books.
Reading is my pleasure, esape, whatever you want to call it. I have been reading since I was a young girl. I remember starting with Judy Blume books and the Nancy Drew/Hardy Boys books. I read anything teen that I could get my hands on. We would go to the library every sat and spend hours there.
As far as defending what I read, a lot of my friends read the same books I do. I have a virtual library (over 600+ books) at home so I am always loaning my books out to others. The only time I get really upset was when our church started talking about Harry Potter and saying you were going to go to Hell if you read those kinds of books (Fantasy). I’m sorry but it’s just a story, make believe, fake, not real (I could keep going). It’s the parents job to teach a child to love to read and explain to them what is fantasy and what is reality.
I have already started a book collection for my 9 mo old granddaughter. My daughter doesn’t read but I want her to enjoy books as much as I do.
Don’t enter me in your contest, I am fortunate to have gotten an ARC already and let me tell everyone, you won’t be disappointed. I am loving it.
by Heather Brewer · November 4th, 2009 at 2:53 pmI tell them I am old enough not to have to justify what I read.
by Estella · November 4th, 2009 at 5:23 pmWhat a great story, Kate–I hope you helped open that mom’s mind a little to the pluses of reading
I can’t recall when I’ve had to defend myself, and am raising some readers of my own, so hopefully someday we’ll take over the world, one mind/book at a time. Or something like that. Sorry, I’m a little busy–I’ve got to get back to this book! I’m just getting to a good part 
And congrats on DemonFire–how exciting to be exploring a new world again!
by Fedora · November 4th, 2009 at 5:33 pmUsually my answer to people critical of my reading, is at least I read. Also I am a big believer in read what you like. If you aren’t enjoying it, then why do it…Really, that seems silly to me.
I love the wolf Tales, JR Ward and I am sure that I will love the demons. I love Sunny’s Demons
Anyway Kate thanks for doing what you do and making our days brighter.
Jeanine
by Jeanine Lesperance · November 4th, 2009 at 6:05 pmKate
There’s a story for the books. =) Guess it goes to show, be careful what you say to strangers, you never know who they will turn out to be.
As for justifying what I read-I don’t. I’m not asking my daughters to read it, and let’s face it, my husband does enjoy hearing parts of some books.
Bottom line, it’s my business. My money and most of all, MY enjoyment.
I’m looking forward to DemonFire
CatherineC
by Catherine C · November 4th, 2009 at 6:26 pmI can’t remember the exact words, but it was along the lines of:
by Janet H · November 4th, 2009 at 6:30 pmHim: You read that stuff?
Me: Yes.
Him: Eeew.
Me: Didn’t you say earlier that your fav show was SVU, the sex crimes show?
Him: Yes.
Me: Eeeew.
No apologies or explanations. I like what I like.
I find it interesting that perfect strangers will come up and comment on someone choice of reading material. My guy isn’t interested in the books I read but he still knows that I love them so he doesn’t comment on them.
by Larena Wirum · November 4th, 2009 at 6:53 pmI ask them why they pick their nose or fart or even eat, because they all must be done of course and I must read THOSE books. lol
Deidre
by Deidre · November 4th, 2009 at 8:21 pmKate,
I could just picture you having the conversation you did with that woman. You likely charmed her with your ability to actually address her question and to convey your opinion in a non-threatening and non-threatened manner.
There have been people who have questioned my choice of reading material. But they have never done so in an offensive way. We just fall into a discussion of what we love to read and why. Sometimes we convert each other to what we favor and sometimes not.
By the way, romance isn’t the only genre over which someone may look at us askance. My mother-in-law cannot understand why I pick up the occasional murder mystery or suspense. This from a woman who has The Story of O in the original French on her bookshelves. I suspect that some of her friends and acquaintances have questioned her similarly to how she questions me.
by Little Lamb Lost · November 4th, 2009 at 9:07 pmI am very opinionated person and have no problem what so ever letting people know what I read and why. If I am asked why I feel the need to read erotic paranormal stories, i simply say that they are wonderfully enjoyable both in story telling and in the sexual sense. I usually let them know that if they could lighten up a little they might find the need to lose themselves in the fantasy world and sexual adventures. If that doesn’t work then I tell them I feel sorry for them and they should mind their own business!! LOL
Jodie
by Jodie R. · November 4th, 2009 at 10:09 pmHey Kate,
I’m so glad I saw my email about this post before I went to bed.
by Crystal Dee · November 4th, 2009 at 10:30 pmI find most people can’t resist sneaking a peek at what others are reading. I think most just want to see if it is one of their favorite authors but there are quite a few who are book snobs. They usually belong to some book group or another and will read only the books chosen for them by someone else.
My racier titles stay home with me, not because I’m ashamed of them but because they would embarrass some people in my small town. They are quite the conservative bunch. Romance is quite often put down by the peeking people I meet but I just smile and keep right on reading. I need the beauty of my happy endings. It renews my sense of hope.
my mom is almost like her. she read the presents books. she doesnt go to my paranomal or others she says its “weird” but its so good ! but i didnt get my best friend to read some of my fav authors and now their her favs to
by tanja stojilkovic · November 4th, 2009 at 10:52 pmThanks, Heather! You’re a sweetie!
Phyllis, I am lost w/o a book. Don’t have a Kindle, but I always carry a book with me and it makes time pass perfectly.
Betty, you’ve found the perfect solution to stress! Like Phyllis, you’ve learned to spend your time waiting when you could be checking your watch and tapping your foot, instead enjoying the worlds inside the pages. Kudos to you!
Margie–thank you. have to tell you something funny–my editor commented one time how I was so up front about what I wrote!
That made me laugh–I’m not embarrassed about writing good stories with sexy characters, stories about people who love one another and love the pack. I can’t think of anything I’d rather do.
Peace, I wish you well with your writing–I can’t help but imagine that blending cultures as you are able to do should give you some really wonderful things to say. Best of luck!
Jennifer: In our household it’s exactly the opposite–my daughter wouldn’t read anything paranormal (She’s 36) and then she picked up Twilight by Stephanie Meyers and got hooked. I’m waiting to say “I told you so, ” but she’s reading DemonFire right now so I’ll keep my mouth shut!
Good answer, Janice!
Tracey–love the way you make your point!
Thank you, Mischa. That’s really such a neat compliment! I LOVE losing people…er, well, not quite that way, but you get my drift!
Hey Mel! I think there are a lot of folks reading romances who don’t admit it! Maybe we need t-shirts that say “I read romance and I’m PROUD of it!
Julie–she had a lot of nerve to insult what you were reading–good answer on your part!
Hotcha1, ya never know!
by Kate Douglas · November 5th, 2009 at 12:35 amPatrice, sounds like a case of “if you can’t beat her, join her!”
Dana, that’s the argument I give–real life is tough and it doesn’t always come with happy endings. i want my books to take me away–I get the same feelings when I write that I do when I read, but those feelings are what make the books work, i think.
Linda, that’s a kick. If you want, write to me off list and let me know what B&N it is and I’ll pop some bookmarks in the mail to them. Thank you!
Mo, love this: My money, my house, my books! Same thing I say: My world, my rules! And thank you for setting her straight. The check’s in the mail…not.
Thanks, Eva, and you’re right. thank goodness for the internet, or I never would have “met” you! I love thinking of someone in Finland reading my books!!
Rhonda–I love hearing from readers who share the stories with their husbands. I actually have gotten a few thank you notes from husbands, which I think is such a hoot! Thanks so much for your post.
Ali, so glad you broke off that relationship–no one should have to hide what they enjoy from the one they love. EVER–that’s a first sign of a potentially abusive relationship. You made a good choice. I’m going to visit my mom on Sunday and will take her a copy of DemonFire then. I’ll let you guys know what she thinks!
Heather, Thank YOU! I haven’t heard back from too many of the readers who’ve gotten ARCs of DemonFire, so I’m so glad to hear you’re enjoying it. (Sounds like you have a library like mine!)
Estella–love it! There’s a lot to be said for being a grown up!
Thanks, Fedora. I’m definitely having fun with my new series–new characters, setting, conflict…it’s really a hoot!
Thanks, Jeanine–I just finished Sunny’s new one, Lucinda Dangerously. LOVE IT!
Thanks Catherine, and I agree 100%!
Janet, love it! As my editor said to me, why is it people get so rattled about erotic romance and yet think nothing of reading a book about a serial killer wiht all the gruesome details!
Larena, my spouse loves that I’m writing and enjoying myself, and he never questions what I read. Of course, he likes to tell people he’s my “research assistant.” I tell him he might want to think about saying that…I write gay, straight, bi, group, bdsm, etc…I”m not sure he really wants people to think of that when he’s making his claim!
Deidre…there are no words…
LLL…I must admit, I was laughing too much to be threatening! It was such a bizarre conversation. But you’re right–a dialogue about books can often end up converting someone you least expect!
Jodie, I could probably take lessons from you!
You nailed it, Crystal…it’s the happy ending that’s so important, and why I can’t imagine NOT reading romances!
Tanja, I think I’ve discovered more new authors through recommendations from friends than any other way. Thanks for your post.
I’m going to wait and pick a winner tomorrow as I’m still getting posts to the blog. Thanks to all of you for stopping by!
by Kate Douglas · November 5th, 2009 at 1:03 amThe only person who is critical about what I read is my older sister (she’s 59). She always calls my paranormal books “trash” and tells me she doesn’t know how I can read that awful stuff. I just tell her that we have different tastes in books and that my books are not trash- they are just different than what she likes (mostly non-fiction intellectual stuff which would bore me to tears LOL!) I like my books with their HEA endings!
by annalisa · November 5th, 2009 at 2:12 amTo this day, thankfully nobody has ever looked down or questioned or anything for that matter my love for reading romance books. I hope it continues that way, lol.
I’m glad that your trip to the grocery store ended up on a better note
by Eli · November 5th, 2009 at 8:50 amI love what I choose to read, and luckily no one has critisized my choices. At least I am reading and keeping my imagination alive, and not to mention all the things one learns from wonderful stories.
by Armenia · November 5th, 2009 at 10:29 amoops, forgot email:
armiefox at yahoo dot com
by Armenia · November 5th, 2009 at 10:29 amI’m so grateful that my sometimes small-minded community actually purchases your books for the public library. Otherwise, I would have missed an introduction to your wonderful work!
I’m excited about the new series. And I’ve loved when you’ve posted photos – it is a special privilege to get a glimpse into your life. Thank you!
by Laura Hartley · November 5th, 2009 at 11:25 amAnnalisa–obviously your sister doesn’t have a clue what a good book is! I want to be entertained, not depressed when I read–and even the darker urban fantasy is more entertaining and uplifting than most “literary” works! (I just bought Lori Handeland’s latest, APOCALYPSE HAPPENS and can’t wait to read it! )
Thanks, Eli. So am I. I HATE confrontation, but I will defend my books and romance in general to any critic.
Since folks are still popping in with comments, I’m going to wait and choose a winner later today.
by Kate Douglas · November 5th, 2009 at 11:50 amReading all the comments makes me think of my Grandmothers who both loved to read and read romance but called it “trash” while they did. LOL
I’ve never had to defend my writing or my reading but I’m sure that day will come.
by Chloe Harris (Noelle) · November 5th, 2009 at 12:50 pmNoelle: You’re lucky you haven’t had to defend your interests in reading–or writing. I’ve had friends and family criticize my choices for years. probably why i’ve learned to step up and speak out!
by Kate Douglas · November 5th, 2009 at 5:13 pmIn my case I just tell them “I LIVE in real life, and it gets tedious, why would I want to read it too? I want something that takes me AWAY from the day to day world.”
I am lucky though, my mother and grandmother read a lot too and I’ve totally corrupted them into paranormal romance now.
They come to me to know what to read next…lol…
by Mur · November 5th, 2009 at 7:02 pmHi, I just love your books… I can’t wait to read Wolf Tale 9… It’s driving me crazy to read these such good books… I been reading your books since about a month now and I’m waiting for Wolf Tales 7&8 in the mail… I didn’t know that you had to read with the sequel of Sexy Beast so when I have all the collection I will start over with the order you selected on your site. They’re amazing stories… If ever you come down to Ottawa I will have to get your orthographe.
Thanks for a good reading and I also like your comments of Facebook.
by Kathleen (Kathy) · November 5th, 2009 at 11:09 pmGOT MY WINNERS–AND YES, THAT’S PLURAL! THERE WERE SO MANY OF YOU I PICKED TWO–
#13 poster Faye Hughes
and
#29 poster Julie Swaney
will each receive an ARC of DemonFire. Please send me an email at kate@katedouglas.com with your snail mail address so I can get it in the mail tomorrow.
thanks to all of you for stopping by, and if you are not a member of my newsletter, please join. I’m hoping to get a couple more ARCs from my publisher and will give them away in my regular newsletter contest later this month.
by Kate Douglas · November 5th, 2009 at 11:20 pmI always had that type of problem.when I was A teen My mom had a priest come over to get the demons out of me.I move out after that I was 18 I guess it was time know one understood me anyway.
by stacey smith · November 6th, 2009 at 3:42 amsasluvbooks@yahoo.com
Mur, that’s usually about what I say. The real world is a scary place–I want entertainment and a happy ending when I relax!
Thank you, Kathy!
Your comments are much appreciated…and yeah, it’s confusing for new readers who don’t realize that the stories in the Sexy Beast anthologies are very much part of the series. That’s my fault–I can’t write a novella in my Chanku world and NOT make it connect to the rest! I guess my thinking is much too linear… 
Sheesh, Stacy!
Guess I should quit complaining about my mother not liking my books. No one every tried an exorcism on me–I don’t blame you for moving out! Good luck to you.
by Kate Douglas · November 6th, 2009 at 12:16 pm“I read romance and I’m PROUD of it!”
LOL! Kate.
by Mel K. · November 6th, 2009 at 2:01 pmMaybe that will be my next tattoo. Lucky number 19.
I LOVE that you do the novellas in Sexy Beast and tie it all in. It has given me an excuse to buy the Sexy Beast books. I get to “meet” some new gifted authors. Also if I am a bit “ahead or behind…. its just an excuse to re-read. uuuummmm love them all! Thanks.
by Betty Hamilton · November 6th, 2009 at 6:32 pmLOL…Mel, you go girl!
Thank you, Betty. However, must tell you that Sexy Beast 9 is the last one I’ll be in, but I can promise a killer story! Now that I’m also doing The Demonslayers, I just don’t have time to write the novellas, too, and do a good job. I refuse to rush my books…they have to evolve as I’m writing, and while I do write fast, I’ve learned I have limits to what I can do and do well. I’m writing future Wolf Tales a little longer, though, to compensate for the lack of novellas in between, and the novels will continue to release twice a year–January and July.
by Kate Douglas · November 6th, 2009 at 6:50 pmKate, I have been an avid reader from a very young age and my mom bless her soul was so proud of me (she couldn’t read very well) and knew from the first time I brought a romance book home I was hooked, I have moved up to paranormal now and my husband loves that fact that this is a great way to keep my mind alert. You know that I love all of your work and cannot wait to get the next installment of Wolf Tales
by Felicia T., Chicago · November 7th, 2009 at 11:04 amFelicia, I never realized before how unusual my family was, as I came from an entire household of readers–my parents, my brothers and now our kids read incessantly! I thought everyone was like that. I definitely agree that reading helps keep the mind alert. Thanks for your post, and for hanging in with the Chanku and all their trials and tribulations!
by Kate Douglas · November 7th, 2009 at 4:41 pmI know the contest is over but I wanted to comment on this one. I have 2 stories of this happening with the comments.
I have a shelf at my home where the family comes in my room this is kinda open to everyone where the books sit. I have several of your books along with 3 shelves of the same sort of books. Lauren Dane, Maya Banks just to name a couple. A cousin of mine was walking through my room with an aunt and they saw the books. I happen to be on the other side of the wall setting the table. It was said that they couldn’t believe I would read something like that with my sons in the house. (my boys are 3 and 9). I came around the corner and said to them, “Its not like I am reading it to them as a bedtime story. The boys know these are my books and they don’t get into them.” They both looked at me like I was speaking in a different laungage or something. They didn’t talk to me for the rest of the night.
The second time I had to defend myself on reading one of your books was when I was at B&N. My 9yr old was reading one of his books and I was sitting there with your book in hand and a couple others off to the other side of me. A woman came up and told me that I had no right to be reading those with him sitting so close to me. I told her that I have every right to read whatever I choose to read and he is reading his own book. If she would like I would be willing to give her my copy of the book so she could see what she was missing out on. She looked at me like I was crazy. My son told her she needed to go away because her talking was interfering with his reading time. I thought she was going to pop. She turned bright red and walked away. One of the employees came up as she walked away and told me that he could have helped but he was all to happy to she her get told off by a child. I thought it was funny.
by Gina · November 15th, 2009 at 1:46 amGina, I’m glad you posted! Thank you…and doesn’t it make you wonder about the kind of people who will stick their noses into someone else’s personal business? Especially the lady in the bookstore–family always thinks they know what’s best for you even when they’re wrong, but the one in the bookstore is unreal–and you’ve got a very cool son! He knows how to speak his mind. That is SUCH a good thing! Thanks!
by Kate Douglas · November 15th, 2009 at 2:09 am