March 28th, 2010 | by Elizabeth Amber |
Dane, The Lords of Satyr
I work with some hot men…all half-satyrs and all sexy alpha hunks from 1800s Italy. But is my husband jealous of any of them? Of Nicholas? Or Raine, Lyon, Dominic, Dane? Not at all. He’s proud of my work and very supportive.
But he is jealous…of the time I spend social networking on my computer. Blogging and chatting with readers on Facebook or via my e-newsletter group every month takes time away from our lives together. But it’s mostly fun for me and it’s what authors do. We want to meet our readers and to talk about our books.
Although he’s very tech-savvy and is a vocal proponent of MACs, my husband is not interested in social networking. He’s never been on Facebook or Twitter or MySpace, and he doesn’t understand their appeal or why they’re useful. I discussed this with a friend who said that her husband resents the time she spends online as a blogger-reviewer of adult and YA mystery and sci-fi novels.
So I’m wondering…are there people in your lives–husbands, partners, brothers, mothers, friends, and/or significant others—who are jealous of the time you spend social networking online? How do you handle their feelings? Do you try to spend more time with them? Bargain about how long you’ll spend online? Explain what you’re doing and why it’s important to you? Or are there some husbands, boyfriends, partners, who hang out in the blogosphere too? And are you jealous of the time they spend online and away from you?
GIVEAWAY: Please drop a comment with your thoughts. I don’t have copies of my June release, Dane, The Lords of Satyr, yet, but I’m giving away one copy of your choice of the other satyr novels (Nicholas, Raine, Lyon, or Dominic) plus an autographed Dane bookmark to one person who drops a comment here within the coming week. Winner announced here April 4th (next Sunday). Looking forward to your thoughts!
Elizabeth Amber
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Hmm….well I would have to say it depends on the time of the week. I’m on the computer up to 8 hours a day due to my online schooling and I have to chat with several of my classmates during those times. I also chat with many friends, relatives and of course my favorites authors. It’a necessity in my life since I live in a small town and miles and miles away from everyone. I need the socializing otherwise I would go nuts but sometimes the hubby just doesn’t get it. For clarification my husband knows how to turn on the computer and get onto Ebay. Yep that is it but I love him and he will most of the time just shake his head and go out to the man cave and leave it alone.
Great blog Elizabeth and I do hope that I have a chance at getting a bookmarker. Need one for my collection of the lords. Remind to show you sometime what I have done with all the bookmarkers and coverwraps I have received from my favorite authors. It turned out quite neat.
Love and hugs,
by Tracey · March 28th, 2010 at 1:32 pmTracey
My husband and I are retired. We each have to have time alone. He goes to his shop and I go online.
by Estella · March 28th, 2010 at 7:15 pmWorks great.
I think I get jealous of him! Sometimes when we are actually together hes just on the internet doing nothing, lol
by Amanda · March 28th, 2010 at 8:01 pmHe used to be jealous of Twitter till I turned him on to it and now he loved it as much as I do! lol….. but overall I think he is jealous of my laptop since I Spend so much time on it….. I TOTALLY love him more but sometimes…
by Aurora · March 28th, 2010 at 8:36 pmHow true this sounds….my husband could never figure out why I spent so much time on Myspace and Facebook and I could never figure out why he had to watch Sports Center over and over again. Now he has his own Myspace and Facebook but he still does not spend the time I do on them, but I have to take care of the farm lol….
by Annette · March 28th, 2010 at 9:17 pmMy husband was jealous of my online time for a bit, but then he realized how much I got out of the camaraderie and support of the friends I made online.
by Little Lamb Lost · March 28th, 2010 at 9:57 pmIt probably depends on the week
We both tend to spend a fair amount of time online, on different pursuits. I do think it’s good for us to each have interests, and when we do spend time together, that’s a good thing too!
by Fedora · March 29th, 2010 at 12:11 amMy point of view is from that of a single mom with no man in her life (one would be nice but oh well!!). My teenagers do not mind my computer time because they also spend time on their computer. My son does not understand the social networking and believes a computer is for games, games, and more games. My daughter is like her mom and on FB and MS. I have enjoyed FB because I have found many friends from college. I also enjoy the games but my real love (until a real man appears) is reading, reading, reading so keep on writing all of my wonderful favorite authors!!!!
by Wanda C · March 29th, 2010 at 12:55 amNice to see familiar faces and new ones here today. Thanks for stopping by on a Sunday…and I hope your day has gone well. I went out with my husband on a hike and we had a great time. It was blustery, with the occasional tree branch hitting the ground around us though. I wondered if we needed bike helmets just to walk outdoors on a wild day like this. LOL
Tracey, your husband sounds about like mine with regard to online social networking!
Love and hugs back to you!
Estella, that does work well! I cherish my ‘alone time’ more than my husband does, so you’ve made me think about that part of our characters in all this.
Amanda, aha! I was hoping there would be some women with the reverse situation, where you feel that way about HIS time online.
Aurora, that was a smart way to go. I agree—I totally love my husband and love being with him, but I think my social networking time is part of the alone time I need, separate from him.
Annette, so true—we all have our thing. Our passions that our family or spouses don’t understand. At least it’s not self-destructive.
LLL, I’m trying to spend more time with my husband when I’m not online and I’m hoping that will help. I’m glad things are working well for you now and am hoping the same happens for me.
Fedora, time apart does make the time together more meaningful, enjoyable, and special. I have a friend whose husband just wants her to sit with him and watch tv all the time. She has things to do and this is a real problem for them.
Wanda, yes! My husband does like video games. Not all the time, but sometimes he gets a new game and then he’s busy for a few weeks with it. Ahhhh! That leaves me lots of time for my own online pursuits. Our computers are in different rooms, and I think if we were in the same room, he might not mind me spending time online so much. But I get a lot more work done in a room away from him, so…
Hugs, everyone! Have a great week.
by Elizabeth Amber · March 29th, 2010 at 1:09 amMy husband isn’t jealous of my time on the computer. He knows it is how I keep in touch with alot of my friends and family since we moved away from them 5 years ago. He does sometimes get jealous of my reading, but only when I can’t put a book down and it is 3am before I crawl into bed.
by Lisa F. · March 29th, 2010 at 2:20 ambelieve it are not my mom would allways get mad that i was on the combuter all the time instead of keeping her combany but now she found a new person to bug and i hardly ever see her.i don’t no if thats for the better are not but know i can go on line at eny time.
by stacey smith · March 29th, 2010 at 4:25 amsasluvbooks(at)yahoo.com
The problem for me is that my mother can’t understand the amount of time I spend on the computer. And she accuses me of being addicted and wonders if I need to seek some help. It may seem like a lot of time, but people have to consider that you’re doing things on it that you use to do separately like watch TV and also read a book as well as play games, pay bills… etc.
by Sue A. · March 30th, 2010 at 2:52 pmMy biggest concern is disciplining myself on the amount of time spent online. I enjoy emailing friends, keeping up with a couple of author blogs, and entering book contests. Lots of time can pass without me realizing it. Not a bad thing but my passion is actually reading;-) I try to keep balance in my life but it’s not always a smooth or easy task.
I love having the opportunity to win one of the satyr books. I recently read Raine and have read Dominic…I loved both of them.
by Nancy Bristow · March 30th, 2010 at 7:08 pmThanks for stopping by the Aphrodisia blog!
Hi Lisa,
I can relate to this! There have been many nights my husband repeatedly calls me to bed. I know he’s right, too. I should be in bed at 2 am—not up reading. But that’s what a good book will do to you!
Stacey,
People nagging can be their way of showing they care. Especially moms. Mine still mails me packets of helpful articles about safe driving, healthy eating, and the like that she cuts out of magazines and newspapers. Gotta love her!
Sue,
I can relate to this too. When someone isn’t interested in a given hobby, it can seem like an addiction to a friend or family member or outsider. I guess it could be an addiction at some point, but let’s hope neither of us ever hits that point. And I agree with you that there are many things to do online now aside from social networking! Sometimes too much and not always fun, right? Alas, computers are a fixture and I both love and hate them.
Thanks, Nancy. I’m so glad you enjoyed Raine and Dominic! Discipline is key. Sometimes I’m in the mood for hours of social networking, yet other days can pass when I do none at all. Friendships of all kinds have to be nurtured to some extent if they’re to thrive and it can all be fun and overwhelming as well. I feel that I’m striking a pretty good balance now and I hope you are as well.
~ Hugs and happy Wednesday everyone, from Elizabeth the night owl who is up way too late.
by Elizabeth Amber · March 31st, 2010 at 6:52 amMy husband and I each have our own interests. Mine are computer time, Facebook and blogs. His are sports and politics.
by Andrea I · March 31st, 2010 at 4:38 pmAndrea, my husband isn’t into sports, but he is into politics. Maybe I need to find some political blogs for him to get into!
by Elizabeth Amber · April 4th, 2010 at 7:38 pmThe winner of your choice of any satyr novel (except Dane, since I don’t have copies yet) is …
Nancy Bristow (pls email me with your address at elizabethamber at aol dot com) Thank you to all who stopped by to comment! This was fun.
I’m holding a contest on my e-newsletter for a Dane ARC and one of Susan Lyons’ books between now and April 15th, so come on by if you’d like to enter.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ElizabethAmber/
(See the March 1st post in the message queue.)
fyi: I usually have someone else choose the winners of contests by randomly giving me a number or pointing to a post on the list w/o reading it.
by Elizabeth Amber · April 4th, 2010 at 7:46 pm
Thank you so much Elizabeth. What a wonderful treat to find in my Easter basket. 
I’m very happy I won and have written you separately with my email address. You’ve made this day extra special and I’m looking forward to reading my third book in your satyr series. And, being the greedy book-ho that I am, I will also try my luck for Dane 
by Nancy Bristow · April 4th, 2010 at 10:53 pmHave I made an error in the address?
by Nancy Bristow · April 4th, 2010 at 11:01 pm